As I continue to enjoy life in my early thirties, I am increasingly aware of my own personal growth. This has been a period that, so far, allows me to reflect on life during my twenties and all the triumphs, failures, loves, and losses that come with learning on how to adjust and grow into a functioning adult. And while I go through that introspection, it leaves me excited about the future and how much more I will grow.
Not everything is perfect. I still have times of doubt and anxiety. I do not always get what I want. But those kinds of failures and disappointments will always happen. What changes, with luck and a little bit of hard work, is how you react to negative situations.
I was walking around with a friend yesterday in the Chicago sun and we were talking about how people come in and out of our lives. We talked about our own personal developments and leaving old friends behind who did not contribute positively to our new phases in life. Some friendships are fleeting while others are lasting. And what differentiates the two is whether or not the foundation of that friendship is supportive of growth in change.
In my twenties, I really cared about what people thought about me. And, truthfully speaking, I still do. Although, in a much different way. Back then, I wanted to be liked by everyone and I took it personally when I wasn’t. I would also be upset when someone made the decision to move on without me. Now, while the idea of people moving on is still a bit sad, I have reframed my thinking to know that not everything is about me. People do what they do in life in order to achieve and maintain happiness. And, sometimes, that doesn’t include you.
Now, in my thirties, I have fully appreciated the importance of cutting toxic people out of my life. Before, in my twenties, I would reach out, try to find common ground, and make compromises in order to keep something in my life that was not working. Nowadays, nip it in the bud. I have my own issues and worries, and I don’t need unnecessary weight dragging me down. So, I have grown comfortable with cutting ties with people who just do not bring joy in my life. And it doesn’t make sad as it would’ve a decade ago. Now, I find relief.
Gas-s-s-s is a 1970 dark comedy about a post-apocalyptic world where everyone over twenty-five is killed by a toxic gas created by the military. Produced and directed by the legendary Roger Corman, the movie follows a pair of who have escaped the gas leak and the Gestapo-like forces that pursue them in an apocalyptic Dallas.
The film’s soundtrack features psychedelic and country rock contributions from only three acts; Robert Corff, the Gourmet’s delight, and Johnny & the Tornadoes. While this piece of cinematic satire has faded into obscurity, Robert Corff’s track “Don’t Chase Me Around” recently resurfaced as part of the soundtrack for Quentin Tarantino’s 2019 film Once Upon A Time In…Hollywood scoring a scene in which Cliff Booth the stuntman, portrayed by Brad Pitt, leaves the historic Spahn Movie Ranch when he finds that the grounds have been occupied by cultish hippies.
Following my walk and conversation with my friend, we went to the Music Box Theatre to see Once Upon A Time In…Hollywood and I really loved Corff’s song as a commentary that enhanced our previous discussion. In the song, Corff sings that he is running away from someone who is just trying to make him into one big fool. Corff wants to move on and leave that toxicity behind. I totally get that. It is hard, but your life is your own. Don’t spend it with people who don’t make you feel good.